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Facebook, bless it, has (dare I say it? ) revolutionised the online world for many people. Parents in particular. In addition to worrying about what their offspring get up to when they’re supposed to be at school, en route to and from school, hanging at the mall at weekends or Mxiing it up to the extent that they have sms thumb, parents now also have to manage the Facebook beast.

Incidents of bullying, accounts being hacked and abusive messages sent in innocent teenagers’ names, as well as the more usual online terrors like sexual predators, have sent several of the parents I know scurrying to sign up, so that they can keep an eye on thier kids. One of my male friends (and one of the least computer savvy people I know) has hopped onto the Facebook bandwagon to keep an eye on his teenage daughters. My aunt has signed up to keep an eye on her 20-something year-old’s love life — he lives in London and isn’t necessarily good at keeping mom up to date. She is also watching her younger son, now at varsity, who has a habit of not telling mom about his girlfriends (and how often he changes them).

Of course, parents can do this because they get their kids to add them as friends. If their kids haven’t adjusted their security settings to keep everyone out, they can keep an eye out anonymously too.

Personally I’d prefer to know if one of my parents was monitoring my online movements, but then I’m not a teenager anymore, so why would they want to? Of course, I’m not a parent either.

So I’m curious as to how far this phenomena will go. Because if my aunt, and ‘devoted lunatic father’ friend can get out there and online, then any parent can. Trust me, we are not talking about geeks here. Anyone care to sponsor a survey on parents who’ve been forced to get online and net-savvy for the sake of their kids? And any bets as to how it will change their lives? And their kids’ lives? Speculation welcome.




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6 Responses to “The Facebook parent phenomenon”

In the exact same vain that parents can keep track of their kids, this has also developed into a new stalker medium!

Unfortunately, we live in a sick society that will always find a way to use these seemingly friendly environments for evil twisted master plans.

There is a fine between keeping your facebook profile upto date so that your mom knows what is happening, and keeping your facebook profile upto date and open for stalkers and sickos to access intimate information about you.

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Dee Chetty on June 3rd, 2008 at 10:53 am

The generation gap has always existed. Technology does not make it so much easier for bad things to happen - it’s parents and teachers who do not instil basic values in youngsters.

I was exposed to cigarettes, alcohol, drugs and sex as a young teenager in south east England. The degree to which I succumbed was largely influenced by the inherent level of morality I had acquired by then. And there were no PCs, PDAs, mobile phones - just the same peers at school and the local youth club…

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Adrian on June 3rd, 2008 at 12:06 pm

@Dee - this is why parents need to keep up to date with new tech, so that they can advise children on things like ‘privacy settings’ to make sure their personal info isn’t open to all and sundry, for example.

@Adrian - too true. Some people are always quick to blame the technology, without being prepared to take responsibility for what they could or should have done to ensure their children react sensibly to possible threats irrespective of what medium they are delivered via.

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Samantha Perry on June 3rd, 2008 at 12:09 pm

Great article Samantha. IMHO it’s the parents responsibility to do this. If you’re going to let your kids use the Internet you must monitor it. Especially with facebook and the likes (mxit too). Parents need to know the ins and outs, how it works, what happens, what to look for, etc. The other night my wife removed one of the quiz applications my son added to his profile because of the inappropriate content.

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Alan Levin on June 3rd, 2008 at 5:08 pm

Hey, what else are parents to do? In today’s ever-growing communications industry the good are let in with the bad, we now have access to anything from anywhere. Parents, having the natural tendency to worry, have every right to log on and allay or confirm their fears.

What’s irritating to me is the Gossip that this platform stirs. “Have you heard what so-and-so’s daughter is doing??? I just saw her picture on facebook and…” you get the picture.

It’s the same old culture and ideas… spreading over new media. Welcome to our world :)

P.S. Great article

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Muhammad on June 3rd, 2008 at 5:22 pm

@Alan - precisely :-)

@Muhammad - I don’t envy you parental types, as you say, there are just so many things to monitor and worry about.

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Samantha Perry on June 4th, 2008 at 11:27 am

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Samantha Perry is an ICT journalist based in Johannesburg. She has been covering the ICT industry for the last nine years, and believes she's nearly due for a long-service award, and possibly a medal. She has worked in a permanent capacity for the likes of Computerweek, CRN and Computing SA (Editor), and on a freelance basis for BMI-TechKnowledge, Telkom and the Corporate Research Foundation amongst others. She is currently the Features Editor for ITWeb Brainstorm and ITWeb Online. In her spare time she attempts to be a nice, cheerful, people-person.
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